David Schnarch. · Rating details · 2, ratings · reviews. Passionate Marriage is recognized as the pioneering book on intimate human relationships. PASSIONATE MARRIAGE: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed In Passionate Marriage, Dr. David Schnarch organizes fourteen chapters into three . Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships By David Schnarch, Ph. D. Norton, pp. ISBN

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It is quite sexually explicit, though it is done tastefully in my opinion, not for the purpose of arousal like erotica. They do not come from decent families.

Which is all well and good, davdi his case studies are of straight couples having sex out of the 50s. I’m thinking about that and I’m also in the process of confronting myself about that.

Enough said on this point. Integrity is something that’s terribly important to human beings. That’s why sexual relationships always consist of leftovers. It’s not just that we can come together and do whatever we want in relationships. What is the connection between a couple’s level of differentiation and the level of hot sex they’re having or not having? But why don’t I hold onto myself as you hold onto me and we’ll give it a go and see where it goes? We need to reward and encourage it every way we can.

This book is doing wonderful things for our marriage, and we already had a great relationship. We teach people that real sexual compatibility is the ability to make room for each others’ differences and preferences. Lists with This Book. Want to Read Currently Reading Read. I’ve been speaking with Dr. And the hallmark of truly being an adult and also truly being a spiritual person is the ability to hold on through difficult times.


Dr. David Schnarch

Treating your partner with respect and confronting yourself in a way that is respect-worthy is also one of the best aphrodisiacs there is. By the way, mind-mapping is all described in Intimacy and Desire. Some of them have already signed their divorce decree. Thank you so much.

My husband and didn’t understand what he was saying. And so yes, if you and I are fairly well-differentiated people and you say to me, “I’d like marraige try this,” I might say, “You know what? Only by knowing what we want as individuals can we be true to others. It’s not about learning an idea or learning a new technique, like communication skills.

The beginning and end of the film ‘Love Actually’, there were shots of people greeting each other with warm love and expectations. So I think that the growth edge for me is really making peace with the harder parts of myself that, up to now, I might have wanted to acknowledge.

What I took away was that instead of dividing you, maintaining your individualism in marriage aids your closeness and mariage to one another. Another is romantic love, driven by norepinephrine and serotonin and dopamine. The cranial capacity of the brain doubled in a very short period of time.

For instance, differentiation is an abstract concept and I know that when you start talking about that, people scratch their head and when I do interviews with reporters and I talk about differentiation, you can watch their eyes glaze over.

And this is why a childlike approach or an approach that reduces adults to children which is very, very common is pop psychology is an enactment, as far as I am concerned, because we’re not children.

They’re going to want to go to a therapist passjonate tells them, ‘Yeah, it is a childhood wound and your partner should be there for you all the time.


Echnarch since most of us get our reflected sense of self from our sexuality, how we look, how people respond to us, and what we do or don’t do sexually, it’s very, very rigid for most people. David Schnarch is a licensed clinical psychologist, certified sex therapist, and author of numerous books and articles on intimacy, sexuality, and relationships.

Passionate Marriage : Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

Although a noble idea and a potentially dvid topic, the clinical nature of this book made it difficult to slog through to the actually useful information So I marrlage recommend this lightly or broadly. You go through this when you lose a family business or you’re out of work and the funds aren’t there. Want to Read saving…. What do you mean by differentiation? Schnarch what a name presents marriage as the pinnacle of human evolution, deep connection as the marriags path to eroticism, and straight-ahead conflict as the necessary door to long-term happiness.

And handled well, going through the gridlock and holding onto the four points of balance are what help you develop a self out of your sexual difficulties. That is to say we think it is all about us and our needs.

All their friends are dead now and they are the only two [left]. You demonstrate that you’re willing to go first and open an artery by confronting yourself about something that you know is true.